My thoughts on Secret Life

As you all know, I love Netflix.  It's a dear friend of mine.  Well, a while back, Netflix recommended the show The Secret Life of the American Teenager.  So, I gave it a shot.  I thought it was an interesting concept, but I was kind of bored with it after a few episodes.  I kept up with it and it did get better.  Although, I'm still not convinced that it is in anyway realistic.  These are some freaky teenagers.  It's not at all like what my high school years were like.  And, it hasn't been THAT long since my high school years.  

Anyway, I'm on Volume 4 (which is -- I think -- the second part of season 2).  I'm tempted to stop watching because I do think it's ridiculous.  And, I also think that Amy Juergens (the teen mom) is irritating as hell.  I just watched the episode where she and Ben finally break up.  Dude.  If that guy actually existed, he'd be a saint.  I don't know why anyone would put up with a girl like that for so long.

I'm also considering stopping watching because the show is just irresponsible.  It's showing teens that it's okay to be in completely unhealthy relationships.  And, it's normal if you and your partner have absolutely no trust for each other.  Oh, and if you want to make your partner pay attention to you, the best option is to cheat on them.  They'll forgive you anyway.  

Oh, and sex?  It's completely normal to give it up when you're not ready.  Especially if you're doing it to make sure your boyfriend doesn't have sex with someone else.  Ahhhhh!  

I find myself disliking almost everyone on the show.  I think the only people I actually like are Leo Boykewitch and his fiancee, Betty.  And Betty is a former hooker.  This show is so messed up.  

Have you watched?  What did you think?

BYU Honor Code

Most people have probably heard about Brandon Davies' suspension from the BYU basketball team.  If you haven't, you can read about it here.  Basically, he had pre-marital sex.  That is against BYU's honor code, so they suspended him.

There has been a lot of uproar about how ridiculous it is.  I disagree.  I don't have a problem with pre-marital sex (obviously, haha).  However, I think it is fantastic that the school is actually following their honor code.  

I can't tell you how infuriating it was for me to see the rules ignored simply because the rule-breaker was an athlete.  The rules should be enforced for everyone, athlete or not.  

So, while I don't necessarily agree with the rule that students cannot have pre-marital sex, I applaud BYU for actually enforcing their rules.  After all, Davies knew the rules when he decided to go to BYU.  He knew he would be forced to refrain from having sex if he wanted to go to the school.  He didn't hold up his end of the deal; BYU did.  

So, I don't see why people are so upset with BYU and not Davies.  Although, I will admit that it is a very strange situation.   

And some stuff happened...

Things are going great in my life again. :)

Joe has decided to stay friends with me. He finally figured out that other people's crap is irrelevant to our situation. We had a wonderful chat on Friday and then we hung out for a few hours on Sunday. It's wonderful to have my best friend back. :)

Yes, I am dating Philip. So far, people are either completely shocked or they saw it coming for a while. The people who saw it coming scare me. lol... it's weird to me because I didn't see it coming at all.

I met Philip over 4 years ago. If someone would have told me then that this would happen, I would have laughed in their face. Of course, Philip and I have both changed a lot in that time.

Even if someone would have told me 2 months ago that this would happen, I would have laughed. I guess Philip has had feelings for me for a little while though. A friend of Philip's saw it coming for years. Before even Philip felt anything. That is scary. She is obviously psychic and worthy of my fear. lol

Another surprising thing... Philip is by far the best boyfriend I have ever had. I know I'm not really all that experienced with that (my total is up to 3 boyfriends now... lol), but still, I know he's wonderful. He really knows how to treat a woman. :) He listens. He talks. He is so sweet. He's not nearly as big of a pain as he pretends to be. Ha!

Something slight disturbing... Apparently I'm a whore. lol... it feels funny to write that. I'm just kidding about it though. It's just something frustrating that I've come across in recent weeks. A few weeks ago, someone assumed that because I'm dating Philip that I was having sex with him... and that was after only dating him for a few days. It's irritating to me because I think that people should know me better than that.

A friend of mine started dating someone who he didn't really know and almost immediately started a physical relationship with her. That's horrifying to me. I know that he's in love, but still... he doesn't know her at all. I don't know how people jump into that. I mean, I've been friends with Philip for about 4 and a half years and I don't feel comfortable jumping into bed with him. How do people have sex with people they don't know??

Blah... I'm done with that now. I went to Carowinds on Saturday with Philip. I had an awesome time. :) It's funny to me that I am terrified of falling and heights, but I love roller coasters. It's nice to have someone to go with me. I can do what I want again. It's fantastic. I love Joe, but I feel like I lost who I was with him. And now I've found me again. It's wonderful.

Sex... (That title caught your attention, right?!)

I've been thinking a lot lately. It's been egged on a lot by movies I've seen recently.

People are insane! There are actually people out there who have sex with random people who they do not know. This is a horrifying thought to me.

I have rules about sex that I do not break. I'm not so conservative as to say that marriage should be saved for marriage (I don't believe that... sex is an important aspect of a relationship and you need to know if you're sexually compatible before committing yourself to someone for the rest of your life), but I do have more conservative rules than society seems to be pushing.

Number one, I have to be in a serious relationship with someone. Number two, I have to be in love with them. I've never broken my rules. I don't know how I could live with myself if I did. I'm not saying that my rules are for everyone, but I would think that everyone should at least know the person they're sleeping with.

I have my rules for my own reasons. Sex is very personal for me. It's something to be shared with someone that I love. Not for just anyone. However, I know that sex isn't that for everyone. However, that doesn't mean that people should have sex with someone that they picked up in a bar. You don't know that person. There are serious repercussions for having sex with someone you don't know.

First of all, disease. Herpes is not how you want to remember that crazy weekend. It's disgusting and it's going to put a serious damper on your future plans. Even if someone appears to be clean, looks can be deceiving. And can you really trust someone you just met to tell you the truth??

Second of all, pregnancy. Do you really want to be impregnated by someone that you know nothing about?? I realize that not everyone has the same attitude as me about abortion not being an option, but still, even pro-choicers know that abortion can be traumatizing.

Third of all, the person you go home with could be a freak. This goes for women especially since we are more likely to be raped/attacked. That person who seemed great in the bar could be a rapist or murderer. Is the possibility of an orgasm really worth that threat?? It isn't to me!

Finally, how high could your self esteem be if you're willing to open your legs for anyone? I think people should love themselves more than that.

I'm not saying that everyone should have to be in love with the person they give themselves over to. I've known/been with people who sex was more like a game or sport to pass the time. Even still, that doesn't mean that those people need to have sex with anyone. Is it really going to kill a person to wait a while to find out if that person is worth your time?

Come on, people. Be safe. And find out something more than that person's favorite position or bust size before going to bed with them.